[LittleBrie]

i'm in one of those real nostalgic moods right now as monster comes up. it was my first real rave last year and due to lack of funding i wont be able to go this year. i guess i kind of feel like the real good times like that night are over or close to being over.
hmm i dunno...the guy i'm with(will be our 1 year nov. 6th) well he doesn't like certain things done at rave that i enjoyed so i stopped doin those certain things and while i can enjoy a rave normal, i just feel kind of sad that i wont be doin that ever so often anymore. merghhh...i felt like i could talk to you guys about it cause well your ravers and understand the fun of raves and all that goodness...
ughh seems like a bit of a change in my life right now and while i do want to go to raves it seems really difficult at this point and that bugs the heck out of me! grr well thats all thats on my mind right now hah

*end of rant*

[ShagadeliC]

aww cheer up kid-o. lol. my girlfriend is the same way. she hates when i do certain things. so when she goes with me i dont do them. it sucks but its not the worst thing that could happen. and theres no way that the good times are even close to over!!!! your still young there will be plenty of nights that will probly be better than that.

hope you have a better mood <333

[Vebdetta]

Aw, me and my girlfriend had to miss her 1 year rave anniversary on Saturday. I stopped doing drugs at raves(im assuming thats what you're talking about) for personal reasons so our situations are different, but I do know what it's like to miss it. I recommend that if you're not going to roll or trip at raves then go to a couple of them alone and just go around meeting people, it's a great experience if you haven't done it and will give you a new view on the scene, and i'm sure your boyfriend will understand. Also, go with close friends and your boyfriend, try to have meaningful deep talks and do things that you would have done if you were on something, pack a few energy tablets form a gas station in your bra or however you would smuggle pills in, and take em so you can go all night. Try to simulate what you miss about the scene in a different way that your boyfriend is okay with, it will help you can if it was ecstasy that your boyfriend doesn't want you doing he'll appreciate that you can have the same great time without the drug.

EDIT: gramatical errors fixed, and massages are fucking awesome sober, start a sober massage corner and see how many people you throw off when they find out you're all sober.

[Ziadon]

I really wouldn't know what you're going through.

I've only ever been to one rave.

but I can say that I was stone sober that ENTIRE rave, most I did was smoke cigarettes

and I had a blast, I was bouncing off the walls, even had a freaking gas mask.

Yeah, "certain things" make raves better, but they also make you lose sight of how fun it is going sober. I'm not big on the drug scene either, but my philosophy is that raves are amazing as they are, drugs or not. (I'm assuming they are drugs as well)

I mean, I'm sure the drugs make it better, but I'm already an easy going guy and don't need E or LSD to make it better. (plus, I will NEVER do LSD, I am honestly terrified of the repercussions...I've had a friend locked in a psychiatric hospital his flashbacks were so bad)

I really think it's better going to a rave sober anyway, because then you're having a good time because of the rave and people you're with, not the drugs (I'm not trying to say that the drugs completely take over your perception of the party, just I mean, no drugs in the equation)

I'm not sure if I'm making sense, because most of the time I don't, but I hope you get the point lol

I just think you should try being happy that your boyfriend lets you go to raves and you have someone who looks out for your well being

instead of being sad that you can't do these "certain things"

(not trying to be mean if that's how I come across, just trying to be honest)

[LittleBrie]

=) well i was sober at noc and had a wonderful time. i think its just a mix of a few things going on right now along with the whole usage thing. like the friend i used to go with isnt going to many raves if any now so its a little sad cause it seems like i'm not going to be getting the same experiences as i had in the past where i just went with my homegirl who loved doing the same things as me and just wanting to do what we liked and saying fuck it to other people haha

[Ziadon]

yeah that sucks, I know if the friends that took me to the rave stopped going I'd be devastated, they're the only people in my town that actually get the concept

like, we are a car full of people and are really the only ravers in apollo.

the rest want to go just to get wasted

but I'm sure you can try to convince her otherwise =] and if not, take another friend with you (I know it won't be the same, but it's better than nothing)

[Vebdetta]

Aw that's sad to hear. The kid I raved with when I first moved here and I aren't friends anymore over some major respect issues, different situation but regardless I lost a raver.
Like I said before, try going alone just to meet people, it really is an awesome experience and you can make some amazing friends.

[starlet]

yeah i kinda fell off the edge of the rave scene when i stopped doing drugs, thats pretty much all my friends went for, so i didn't have that much fun with them there. but now i've grown up a bit, i want to go for the music and atmostphere and dancing and spinning and all that other yummy stuff, but i work too much over the weekends...

I'm so getting some time off to go to Wendy House next month tho.

[LilRaverBoi]

Originally Posted by Ziadon

Yeah, "certain things" make raves better, but they also make you lose sight of how fun it is going sober. I'm not big on the drug scene either, but my philosophy is that raves are amazing as they are, drugs or not. (I'm assuming they are drugs as well)

Very well stated! *Respect given* and I agree completely except for the point about drugs making raves better, cause for me, I have a WAY better time without em. Drugs just mask the true beauty of what raves are to me. Purely my opinion, though.

I'm sorry to hear about your situation, Brie....but honestly, I have found (and you will too) that things will always change with time....but you can adapt with them to still experience amazing things (as amazing or even better!). I think if you continue to go to raves without substances, you'll appreciate more what goes into it and the wonderful things you can both contribute and take away from them! Just enjoy the music and the people, dance around and have a blast! Cheer up! We all love you and good times are always there if you look for em!

[StringBean]

My Gf is the same way. But i told her that she met me that way and she liked me then so she is just going to half to deal with it.