Ever wonder about how to go about the club? Heres my advice:
Clubs are a funny thing. I've been told that they are the best place to meeting people, but how much truth does that hold? How often do you get to have a meaningful conversation with someone at a club? Probably not too often.
Well why is that exactly? There's a ton of bright lights, pounding music, and tons of people screaming and yelling at the dj because he is mixing in yet another great song. Even if that person is interested, a conversation that can lead somewhere is not likely. To be honest, probably no one is really interested in sitting down and having a chat anyway. Chatting is for the local coffeehouse. Clubs are for having fun.
Confidence! People don't dance because they aren't confident that they can! The truth is, no one is staring at you! If they are its most likely a good thing. Confidence is what making new friends at a club is about. Come party with gXg and you'll see!
I always thing people are really weird when I look around and see a lot of people just lurking in the darkest of corners watching everyone else. Its awkward, its creepy, I just don't get it. Why come if you don't want to have a good time?
I can't Dance!
Think you can't dance? Don't have the moves down yet, don't worry. You are not alone. Most guys, not girls, have no idea how to dance, and its not their fault. No one ever taught them, and if you think girls have it easier give it a try....when no one is around of course. So when you get this down you will have such an edge it won't even be funny. You'll be the one out there having a great time, drinking, being the fun, social, confident person that everyone will want to introduce themselves to.
When I learned to dance, it was a gradual process, but I was pretty confident and laid back. Start with the two-step. Do whatever feels natural with your arms, head, and body. This will give you a feel for a rythmn. The next step is simple. Take a look around you and see what everyone else is doing. I'd see a guy do a little cross step or a spin and I would think, "I can do that." I'd give it a try, and
boom, I have one new movement I like. Build from that, and soon you'll have a whole arsenal. Thats exactly how I learned.
I see someone I wanna meet!
So many of us, including myself, are completely comfortable just walking up to someone if you want to meet them. Most of the time I just end up meeting someone on accident just enjoying myself. But lets say theres someone you see and you aren't the smoothest guy out there that can randomly think of the coolest mother effin thing of the night.
- The GenXGlow shirt! Classy classy. Not only will you look hella good, but you will have a completely legit convo starter! What this does is take the awkwardness of finding a topic that is short and easily answered and put it on your body with a silver lining. (p.s. shirt does not actually have a silver lining). Remember, long wordy convo's are not favorable for a club. All you have to do is go up to the person and say, "Your really good! You should join our site." And then its pretty easy from there with questions like, "what site, what the site is about, how they could contribute, etc." Its flattering, its honest, and it brings more members! People have asked me and the others I've partied with about the site before out of random; it does work. All you need for this is the right shirt.
- Nice guys finish first!. Well, in this concept anyways. This is the idea that a little sincerity and politness, combined with some charm, can get you anywhere. Lets say you are trying to get a drink. The best way to get a bartenders attention is to hold money out-not in the air though. Holding your money in your hand on the table will catch their eyes pretty quick. They will turn their attention to you as soon as they see this. Lets say there is an attractive person next to you. Tell the bartender that He/She was here first, regardless of whether they were or not, but to put your bill on their tab. This creates familiarity and security between two strangers.
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09-03-07, 05:36 PM
I dig. And so true. So true.
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